One of the facts of life that surprises a lot of my patients (although they invariably say something like, âOh yeah, thatâs right!â when I bring it to their attention) is just another of Mother Natureâs little ironies:
As women age, they tend to become more masculine looking in the face. Features harden and sharpen, and the soft curves of the face of their youth morph into angles.
As men age, they tend to become more feminine looking in the face. The chiseled jaw softens, sometimes into oblivion, and the strong virile features that defined their masculinity in youth seem to melt and sadden.
That is one of the reasons why facelifts, lid surgeries and even BoTox and fillers can go so awry. Itâs why women can look âharderâ after theyâve had work done and why men can look sort of âweirdâ. Those of us who treat faces need to understand that you donât just follow your Doctor Book and approach people like a technician. It is our responsibility to understand the subtle differences that give femininity or masculinity to the face and to be able to translate that into the work we do with our patients.
The aim is to restore softness, sweetness, perhaps even a bit of an angelic look to the womanâs face. On the other hand, the aim with a man is to restore a look of strength and virility to his face. This requires an almost 180 degree turn in our approach to the two genders. And this is one of the ways we make our âworkâ look natural.